What’s sexy in a pandemic? Caution. – Washington Post
It’s the most precaution Valderruten has taken before a first date, and it’s a sign of how much the singles scene has changed in the past year. Now Tinder matches want to know where you’ve been, who you live with and whether you’re willing to get tested.
Valderruten says it’s been “challenging” to talk for so long without being physical. Just six months ago, he was having casual sex with men he met on dating apps. But after his father was hospitalized with covid-19 in the fall, Valderruten deleted the apps and got a lot more careful.
Now, he finds the delayed gratification of dating to be exciting. “He’s making me work harder,” Valderruten says of his upcoming date, who’s a nurse practitioner. “It’s his life and his job on the line, and I want to make sure that I’m protecting his values and everything that he’s doing.”
In the Before Times, singles often swooned over good looks and a spontaneous spirit. Dating profiles boasted about being well-traveled and always up for adventure. But the risk of contracting and spreading a deadly disease has overshadowed such desires. And our vulnerability and isolation has forced daters to rethink what really matters. It’s become more important to find someone you can really talk to and count on than someone