How to cope with first-date jitters and dating anxiety – Straight.com
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The prospect of going on a first date is initially exciting but as the date approaches, many singles frantically search for an excuse to cancel—nerves can get the best of people.
Whether you’re meeting potential partners on an app or in the wild, experiencing butterflies or unpleasant signs of nervousness is common before a date. Thankfully, there are ways that these feelings can be managed.
The pandemic has put the dating scene on pause but once the physical distancing restrictions are lifted, singles can resume their search for love. To help you re-enter the realm of dating with confidence, psychotherapist Julie Chang offers some insight into how singles can cope with first date jitters and anxiety.
(Chang is available for an e-consultation through the Tia Health website for counselling services.)
Go somewhere familiar
“Depending on the client, I may recommend them to find certain elements they can control without coming across as intrusive to dates, such as suggesting a venue they are familiar with,” says Chang. “This way not all aspects are a surprise, which can be nerve-wracking for those who have anticipation anxiety.”
By taking a date to your favourite eatery or bar, you’ll know what to expect in terms of seating, service, and ambience. Don’t worry if the servers have seen you bring multiple dates to the same restaurant; you need to do what’s most comfortable for you.
Remember that you’re not alone
Experiencing predate anxiety is normal and there’s a good chance your date is feeling the