How quarantine has changed dating, sex, and love – Thinknum Media
Countless articles and thinkpieces have attempted to make sense of pandemic-era sex and dating. Angles include “If You Can’t Get It Up It’s Probably Because Of Our Impending Doom,” “How Quarantine Can Make Your Relationship Stronger,” “How Quarantine Will Tear Your Relationship To Shreds,” “In The Future All Of Your Romantic Entanglements Will Exist On A Screen,” and “Actually, Online Dating Is Good.” It’s a complicated issue with several sub-issues and no straight answer. And to cope with these woes in love and lust, people are experimenting with sex toys, lingerie, and video chat dates.
Single life is lived online
Singles in quarantine are forced to choose between possibly exposing themselves to the virus or a lack of physical intimacy. The NYC health department even released “guidelines” about sex and Coronavirus, such as “You are your safest sex partner” and “The next safest sex partner is someone you live with,” among other cringe-worthy bulletpoints. Online dating is the safest option for singles to meet each other, but how well can you really know someone without in-person contact?
Viral dating coach Adam Lyons says his client count has quadrupled since the lockdowns went into effect. “And our regular clients have a lot of questions because they are swamped with more online dating matches, and those matches are more forward in their behavior and requests,” Lyons tells Thinknum. “I’m getting clients to slowly increase their physical exposure to their online matches. It starts with online matching, then communicating in-app, moving to text