Adventures in online dating – Martha’s Vineyard Times
Years ago, my stepmother, who was then in her 70s, was planning to come over to our house from Falmouth for Thanksgiving dinner, and she called the day before to ask if it would be all right if she brought a friend — someone she had just met on match.com. We said of course, and then looked on in bemusement as she made out with her friend in front of the fireplace after dinner.
If I had any questions about how mature singles, let’s say singles over 50, were adapting to dating in the digital age, at least based on my stepmother, they were doing just fine. Back in the day people met the old-fashioned way … through friends, at work, or in bars. But I wondered how seniors, in the age of match.com, Tinder, and Bumble, were adapting to making matches.
I started by asking a contributing writer for The Times, Abby Remer, if she had any experiences with online dating. Abby is a youthful 60 years old, blond and attractive. She is from New York and was divorced in 2000, and while she was leery of online dating, she decided to give it a try. “When you first go online, you get inundated,” Abby said, “you’re juggling emails, looking at profiles — it’s like a whole other job.”
Abby decided to set some guidelines. “First of all, people had to have photographs,” she said; “I wouldn’t even answer anyone who didn’t have a picture.” Abby would